A Divorce Solution

Saving Your Marriage Is Up To You

Many years ago I was married to my first husband. That marriage was nothing short of a disaster. I was young, foolish and didn’t know how to handle the pressures that married life presented. We argued, we insulted each other and we grew to disrespect one another. It was a bitter and ugly divorce. I knew that I never wanted to be in that situation again. Yet, as my second marriage began to crumble, I found myself acting much the same way I did the first time around.

I truly loved my second husband but I wasn’t equipped in any sense to deal with the problems we were facing. For me, it was much easier to hide behind a veil of anger and resentment. I started to realize as the bickering increased and the closeness decreased, that I didn’t want to lose him. I loved him and I needed him. I wanted to save the marriage for the sake of myself and my children. My family was the most important thing in the world to me, so I set out on a course to save my marriage in any way that I could.

In order to save your marriage you have to do put in the effort both emotionally and physically. This is one lesson that I discovered very early on in the process of rebuilding my broken marriage. It certainly wasn’t just about learning to communicate better or spending more time doting on one another. It’s an involved process that takes effort, time and commitment. The reward is life changing though. You can go from having a marriage that is on the brink of disaster to being closer to your spouse than you ever imagined was possible.

If you are strong in your belief that saving your marriage is the right thing to do, you can make it happen. There are specific things you can do, with or without your spouse’s help that will transform your marriage from a fractured connection to one that is emotionally enriching and sustainable for a lifetime.

Warning Signs of a Marriage in Trouble

Things You Need to Be Aware Of

Each marriage takes on a life of its own as the couple matures and settles into a pattern of living together and building a future together. There are bound to be roadblocks along the way and sometimes a couple will overcome those obstacles together. Sadly, there will be times when the issue at hand seems insurmountable and the pair is divided, each on opposite ends of a problem that doesn’t seem destined to find a resolution. Such is the case with a couple that is considering divorce.

Here are several common signs of a marriage that is slowly coming apart:

You ignore problems. Once a couple has reached a point where they no longer openly discuss the issues that are impacting their marriage, divorce is just around the corner.

You argue about everything and anything. We all face conflict within our relationship from time-to-time. If a couple is constantly bickering about even the smallest thing, it’s no longer about the issue at hand. They are taking their ongoing frustration with one another out in a very unflattering and non-constructive way.

You spend little to no time together. One of the glaring signs of my first marriage being over for me was that we started taking separate vacations. I would travel with my friends and he would travel with his. Our vacations were at different times to different locations. If your spouse and you don’t plan any time together, that’s an obvious sign that your marriage isn’t in a healthy place anymore.

Your future plans no longer include each other. It’s vitally important that a couple works together to plan for what their mutual future will include. Once this stops happening, the couple no longer views themselves as a couple. They begin seeing themselves as individuals which obviously speaks to the state of the marriage.

If you recognize any of these signs within your own marriage, there’s still help for you. You can build a stronger marriage now and avoid a divorce if you take the right steps.

Lee Baucom’s ‘Save The Marriage – Even If Only You Want It’

The Insight I Needed to Save My Marriage

I first found some of Lee Baucom’s infinite wisdom when I was online one night looking for anything that I felt could help me get a handle on the marital problems that me and my second husband were facing. I knew that if I didn’t act quickly, a divorce was going to be our next step. I didn’t want that and in spite of all the conflict we were facing, I loved him and I wanted our marriage to work.

Lee Baucom is a counselor who specializes in helping couples who are struggling to keep their marriages together. He’s done some consulting work for Dateline on NBC so I knew that he had to have a firm grasp on what he was providing in terms of assistance to couples in crisis.

I bought his book titled “Save the Marriage – Even if Only You Want It” and was able to download it immediately. I stayed up that night reading, absorbing and finally feeling hope again. The book explained that I could save my marriage with or without the help of my husband. I started that next day finally feeling as though my relationship with my husband had a fighting chance.

Lee’s book works whether you’re a man or a woman and it doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been married. He explains in detail what you can do starting right now to change the future of your marriage and move into a happier, healthier and more satisfying emotional place within your relationship.

There are some bonuses that come with the book that I want to mention because they helped me so much.

Lee Baucom offers a free email consultation with the purchase of his book. This is truly priceless. It allows you the opportunity to get his personal insight on any problem that you and your spouse may be facing. Use this to your advantage. It’s truly a gift in itself.

You’re also going to get a report titled, ‘Top Five Things Not to Do When Your Spouse Wants Out.’ Read this if your spouse has been threatening you with the idea of a divorce. It helps you find your feet again and will put you back in emotional control.

If you are committed to your marriage and you want to not only save it but improve it as well, read the book. You can be on track to saving your relationship today. There’s no better feeling than that.